“We are weak whenever we are disconnected from our Inner Child, abdicating responsibility for ourselves and acting from the fears and beliefs of the ego.” -Healing Your Aloneness
A Course in Miracles states that “The ego is particularly likely to attack you when you react lovingly, because it has evaluated you as unloving, and you are going against its judgement.” This means that your ego believes that you are an unloving person and as long as you believe that, your ego has control over you. If, however, you awaken to the fact that you are loving and lovable, the go will attack you because it fears the loss of power over you. Your ego has spent your life convincing you that you must be hard to be powerful. We’ve yet to learn that the most powerful defense is the defenselessness of softness and love.
I have been learning how to self-talk my ego, aka my Adult self. Last week I released a lot of emotion by sharing a lot of stuff with my therapist that had been building up inside for awhile. I finally let go and dug deep…I was able to let go because the feeling of keeping it all bottled up inside finally became more overwhelming than the belief that I could do it alone (ego).
So now, my Inner Child is ashamed. She is cowering and she is scared because now someone knows some of her secrets. I am having to make a conscious effort to lovingly accept her feelings and to acknowledge her fears. I struggle to tell her it is okay to feel her own feelings, but that she doesn’t have to fear having a witness anymore. My usual Adult response would be to tell myself to get over it….which leads to anxiety and worry. This was before I realized that fear inside of me was my Inner Child. Now that I know who it is, I have compassion for her. I am trying to tell her that as these walls of secrets get torn down, it’s okay. The rawness is scary. And she wants the walls to go back up…that’s what she knows. But I keep telling her that maybe the walls will never have to go back up, and that by tearing them down everything will be better. Hell, it’s all a brand new concept!
I am trying to react lovingly toward myself and so my ego is attacking this love. The ego is so used to being in charge. The ego has helped me through many traumatic times…and it was my ego protecting me because that’s all I knew what to do. Now that I am learning new skills, well, it’s complicated! 🙂
Brief moments in time when I sit still and reflect inward I feel so very good about tearing down a wall. It feels lighter. I feel happier. I am learning to love myself. I am strong when I am connected with my Inner Child. My ego is no longer in the drivers seat. My faulty wiring is being re-wired.